Respecting him means that you appreciate when he does something and tell him so. Even if it is not the way you would’ve done it. That’s right, men need to feel a certain way if you want their loyalty. If you want him to be really deeply engaged in the relationship, you’ve got to pay attention to his mind and emotions.
In a relationship, the most important thing that will affect a man’s ability to “perform” is the level of respect he feels in the attitudes, actions, and words of the people around him. When I say, “perform,” I am referring to emotional openness, willingness to work through problems, true investment in the relationship, and the desire to make you happy above all else.